Good therapy creates a holding environment for the postpartum woman. The therapist acts as a functional caregiver for the new and overwhelmed mother. In practice, this looks like a distressed mother coming in for therapy and leaving the office feeling relieved and cared for. Of course, there is more work that goes into this technique, but the foundation comes from the idea that mothers need to be mothered too. If you think that a new mother is struggling, offer to help her find the right therapist.
For more information about therapy check out www. Our society does not have a standard set of practices to take care of our mothers. These tips can help the mothers in your life feel taken care of and mothered. Jamie Kreiter is a licensed clinical social worker and a certified perinatal mental health clinician. Jamie offers therapy services to adults, both individuals and couples in the Chicago-area. As a therapist who specializes in the treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders, Jamie works with women experiencing challenges across the entire reproductive life story, including infertility, miscarriage, pregnancy, depression and anxiety.
Jamie is the mother of a fourth-month old daughter! As a new mother herself, Jamie understands that joys and challenges of motherhood. She stands by these tips as they were very helpful to her and her family! Your email address will not be published. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email. Check with the new mom before visiting Call, or even better text a mom before coming over. Wash your hands when you arrive If a newborn gets sick, this can be a medical emergency. Offer to help with her to-do list Do something around the house.
Start a meal delivery train Newborns eat every few hours, which leaves moms very little time for her own meal planning. Ensure that visits are appreciated You want your visit with a new mom to be appreciated so keep in mind these tips. If she needs help, get her to therapy New mothers are exhausted, distracted and overwhelmed with worry already.
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She is more able to access feelings of hope and optimism and she is enjoying her baby more. Her medication is helping with the biochemical imbalances that added to her symptoms of postpartum anxiety and OCD and her more realistic idea of what it means to be a good mother to her kiddo has taken some of the pressure off. We all do this. While many of those things may be entirely appropriate, many others may be entirely unachievable.
My guess is that each of you is most certainly being a good mother already…. I thank her for her willingness to put herself out there and admire her courage, her honesty, and her hard work immensely. Thanks for the reminder — no one is perfect, even a mom! Or especially a mom sometimes: I find as a woman that I set unrealistically high expectations for myself while not having those same thoughts about other people at all.
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I think so many of us set horribly high expectations. Thanks for this post, Kate and Katherine! Being a good example means taking care of herself etc. And in order to feel self worth etc she needs to be doing what she can to feel good about herself- and self care breaks, exercise, sleep, nutrition etc is most certainly a part of this….
I love this article. Today we came home early from a camping trip because I was sick.
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I love getting showered in the morning so I can start my daily check-list of things to do. Get into a routine of waking up and doing what you need to do.
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I have a crazy obsession with my kitchen. It HAS to be clean before I do anything. So, I wake up and clean the kitchen each morning. That way if nothing gets done the rest of the day, at least I feel good about something. Find out what kind of schedule works best for you and stick with it. Your spouse and your children should be your very first priority. Take time for your children. Have them sit on your lap and read a book.
Get on your hands and knees and play with their blocks and trucks. The more time you spend with them, the more your love for them will grow, and the happier and more successful mom you will be. Leave the kids with your husband, mom, friend, babysitter — and have a little Girls Night Out! I remember the first time I left my new baby, I seriously almost had a meltdown.
I missed her so much! Get out and have fun with your lady friends. It is good for you to still have friends and to still socialize. You totally deserve it too! Although it is so important to have a clean house, I am a big believer in creating a happy house too. Often times, I will get done mopping our floors and suddenly little toes come running down the hall that I JUST cleaned. Permanent little feet marks are always on my wood floors.
It use to stress me out — but then I realized that it is okay! Everyone has trials. Everyone has bad days.
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Stop comparing and just do your best. We all need support. Someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, a person to make us laugh. As you get wrapped up in special events and groups — people will seek for your help and ask you to make dinner for someone, plan a program, drop the kids off and then pick them up and babysit all in one day. Only put as much as you can handle into your schedule. My mom texted me this quote the other day and it brought me a lot of comfort. I do not ask that you reach beyond your normal capacity.
I hope you will not nag yourselves with thoughts of failure. I hope you will not try to set goals beyond your capacity to achieve. I hope you will simply do what you can do, in the best way you know. If you do so, you will witness miracles come to pass. These 10 habits are the perfect start for you to become the most successful mom! They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.
Being a mother is such a beautiful thing. I being a mom of 1 girl i feel so proud and blessed to. I also understand the value of a true mom through my beloved mom. She always strugled alot to make sure we got everything we needed. So single day ended without her endless love towards us.